Maybe I’m a little naive, or maybe I choose to live under a rock, but I have recently heard the term, “Mommy Wars.” To my surprise this is not a new reality TV show; this is something real that goes on within your neighborhoods, blogs and other social media. I began looking at some of the things these mommies strap their boxing gloves on for and I couldn’t help but shake my head, roll my eyes, and think, “What has this word come to?”
We are all aloud to have our own opinions about parenting, but I also don’t think it is our place to judge, criticize and condemn other moms for doing what they feel is best for their children. Being a mom is the hardest job anyone could have given me, and believe me anyone that has worked in a classroom with 12 crazy one year olds, 16 energetic 2 year olds or 18 mixed ages kids ranging from 2 ½-5, knows that every day is a challenge. But being a mom out ranks any of the challenges I have ever faced in the classroom. Why do we feel that it is our jobs to nitpick other women trying to accomplish the unthinkable on a day to day basis?
So some of the things I found where mothers will fight head-to-head are, breastfeeding vs. formula, cloth vs. disposable diapers, child-led feeding vs. pediatrician recommended schedule, daycare vs. nanny, working mom vs. stay at home mom, circumcision vs. non-circumcision, co-sleeping vs. independent sleeping, vaccinations vs. non-vaccination, home birth vs. hospital birth…the list could go on and on and on and on, cue Queen, “We are the Champions…”
I know there are some very strong opinions on each side of the battle line, believe me I have a strong opinion on these issues as well. Will I ever tell another mom they are wrong for their choices or try to convince them that I am right and they are wrong? No, Never! If someone were to ask me what my opinion was, I am more than willing to share, but I don’t believe it is ever our right to give unsolicited advice that makes another mom feel as if they are inadequate or less than the wonderful, nurturing mother that she is.
Things to consider…When you drew the line in the sand on some of these issues, did you do it haphazardly and with no regard to what you felt was best for YOUR child? I’m guessing the answer is no. Look at it from the other mother’s perspective, I am sure she also did her research, looked at articles, and took into consideration her culture, background and religious beliefs when she chose the path for her and HER child.
So how about we strip off those boxing gloves and come along side other women to tell them what a wonderful mother they are. We need to recognize that we all struggle, regardless of our Pinterest boards, and perfect family posts on Facebook. We should feel blessed to be part of “Club Motherhood” and know that waging war only takes away from the joys of motherhood.